(White) Girls Ain’t Nothin’ But Trouble: The Obsession of White Women with Black Men

By | April 15, 2009

Paul Scott

– Back in the day, Will “The Fresh Prince” Smith had a cool little video called “Girls Ain’t Nothin’ But Trouble.” The video had Smith going through various dramatic episodes with black women. Despite having to jump out of a second story window and missing a RunDMC concert , The Fresh Prince came through the video unscathed, became a big time movie star and lived happily ever after. However, if there had been a white girl in the video, Smith would have either wound up doing a 10 year bid in the state pen or hanging by a noose, somewhere…

I first caught the trailer for the upcoming flick “Obsessed” a few months ago. The movie is about a white woman (Ali Larter) who tries to steal Beyonce’s man (Idris Elba) and break up their happy home. I could tell by the look on the sistas’ faces in the theatre that this movie could mean trouble for brothas who dared venture on the other side of the tracks.

According to the previews, Larter’s character goes psycho after her initial advances go ignored by Elba but somehow she, miraculously, winds up in his bed. Imagine that. If you don’t want to be in a theatre with a lot of black women sucking their teeth and screaming “beat that chick down,” you might want to check out another movie. Now, Beyonce/Sasha Fierce isn’t a bad actress but if I had directed this flick I would have gotten a dark skinned sister like Fantasia or Jennifer Hudson to play the lead. That would have made it really, real.

White women going after black men and vice versa is a touchy subject with black women. We’ve all heard the statistics about the lack of available black men. So, many women see it as an act of treason when a brotha is caught “sleepin’ with the enemy.”

Maybe the sista souljahs have a reason to be concerned. It does seem that when black men become successful, the first thing they do is grab an Escalade and a white chick.

It is hard to deny the fact that there are a whole lot of famous black men with white wives and girlfriends. So, when a brotha like Will Smith or Denzel Washington marries a sista, he is applauded by black women everywhere. Even Barack Obama got more props from black women for marrying Michelle than he did for getting elected president.

Historically, the relationship between black men and white women has not been all peaches and cream. In the South, it was not strange for a black man to end up at the bottom of a lake for even being accused of whistling at a white woman. Remember Emmett Till?

My first experience with a white girl when I was five years old left a lasting impression on me. I was at White Lake, NC with my new fast friend, “Suzie” building sand castles when she was suddenly summoned by her grandma who had been mean muggin’ me from a distance for some time. Suzie returned two minutes later, loudly informing me that she was not allowed to play with n****.

That pretty much did it for me.

But yet, many black men still choose to bite the forbidden fruit. The reasons why vary.

Black women have not always been given the credit that they deserve. From elementary school onwards, the epitome of beauty given to black boys is Princess Diana and not Queen Nefertiti. It must also be noted that there was a period when black women were only thought of as baby making machines on a plantation while Miss Ann was the “flower of southern womanhood.”

The reasons are also social and economic.

Frantz Fanon hints in “Black Skin ,White Masks” that by entering into a white woman, the black man ,symbolically, enters into the white world with all of its privileges. Socially speaking, some black men believe that Heather can take him to dinner parties that Shaquanna can’t.

The attraction of white women to black men also has historical roots that reach back to slavery. Lerone Bennett in his book “Before the Mayflower” points out that that “Ms. Mary” let Mandingo slip into the big house to give Massa Charlie a little payback for getting a little brown sugar on the side. So many white women see sleeping with black men as a way to fight back against a white male dominated society.

Also, for this Hip Hop generation, black women are the in thing. For better or worst, give Hip Hop credit for increasing the TV exposure of black women 100%. Give even the palest white chick a few hours in the tanning salon, a pair of padded jeans and a black boyfriend and you have an honorary “light skinned” sista.

So for the white chick trying to be black and the black dude trying to be white, it’s a match made in heaven. (or some other place)

Maybe, it ain’t all that deep…

Possibly, trying to psychoanalyze interracial relationships is a waste of time. Perhaps we, simply, choose to love who we choose to love.

To each his own.

But for me, I follow the teachings of that great philosopher and rapper Heavy D,

“Black coffee.. no sugar, no cream…”

Paul Scott, the Hip Hop TRUTH Minista, writes for No Warning Shots Fired.com http://www.nowarningshotsfired.com He can be reached at (919) 451-8283 info@nowarningshotsfired.com

  • peter

    black men and white women. black women critique it.

    white men and asian women. asian men critique it.

    a connection?

  • nice

  • “the epitome of beauty given to black boys is Princess Diana and not Queen Nefertiti.”

    Ironically, Nefertiti is not acknowledged as Black and is portrayed by white actresses anyway.

  • Rachel Anderson

    I think there is a background involved with white women and black men. If an eligible black man is considered a well educated, from a non broken black home with family values, you will find almost none of these black men are with white women. If you look at the got a athletic scholarship to an all white college, grew up in the ghetto and been in and out of jail, you’ll find these men date white women exclusively. And realistically, black women don’t see those men who leave their community as a loss. Preferences have to do with the way you were raised.

  • Prosperity

    “In the South, it was not strange for a black man to end up at the bottom of a lake for even being accused of whistling at a white woman. Remember Emmett Till?”

    Actually, even back in those days Emmett Till’s murder was considered strange, abhorrent, and shameful. Mississippi Governor Hugh L. White sent a telegram to the national offices of the NAACP promising a full investigation and assuring them “Mississippi does not condone such conduct”. Local residents, both black and white, also distanced themselves from Till’s murder, finding the circumstances abhorrent. Local newspaper editorials denounced the murderers without question. Leflore County Deputy Sheriff John Cothran stated, “The white people around here feel pretty mad about the way that poor little boy was treated, and they won’t stand for this.”

    It’s not like no one batted an eye about it. Even white folks were horrified at what happened, even in the south in the 1950’s.

  • YBooks

    Even the late Heavy D had Children by a White Women(he didn’t live by his motto).
    It is a person choice to date what race your attracted too. But don’t degrade Black Women because there not your Type.

  • Thedonjuan

    Yeah but the real and smart people Queen Nefertiti and Cleopatra was black.

  • Thedonjuan

    That’s not true at all most black athletes especially ones from the hood date and marry black women.

  • Thedonjuan

    Your comment is null and void because those men were acquitted and a lot of white people in that community helped them.

  • Prosperity

    My comment is null and void? The author said that what happened to Emmett Till was not strange, and I said it was strange. Yes, the men were acquitted, but that’s not my point. My point is that even in those days and in that setting, it was considered strange and disgusting. What did you think I was trying to imply? What were you implying by saying my comment is null and void?